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Every time I hear the credits music of MST3K it always makes me depressed, and makes me think I’ll never see it again.
So very true ;_;
Demisexual and pansexual
Regarding my two pansexual posts: the “zombiesexual” definition of pansexuality I give is really more demisexuality. I was confused about the terms.
Just want to correct that because of how confusing this issue is and how I’m making it worse.
How can you be a domme then?
It’s kinda odd for a fetish, but BDSM really is orthogonal to sex (in the narrow sense. In the wider sense it’s definitely “sex”) . For example, I’ve heard plenty of stories of dommes and subs who have parallel relationships, they have one traditional relationship and a second relationship for BDSM, which is entirely sexless. So it’s entirely possible to have a BDSM-only relationship, which isn’t sexual (well, traditionally sexual)
So there’s really no reason you couldn’t be asexual and still have BDSM relationships. There’s really no reason being interested or not interested in sex would prevent or allow you to be interested in tying/being tied/hurting/being hurt/dominating/submitting.
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A JIZZDONG TRIO
- cannibalism duh how’d I forget!!! but I’m sort of picky (heh); depending on how it’s drawn it can easily go from the realm of boner-inducing-gross to just plain gross.
- in art, really unrealistically/absurdly large insertions. often in hentai this is shown with the person’s belly bulging like s/he’s made of rubber, and I am okay with this, but if there’s actually bleeding caused by it I sure won’t complain
- bondage, and dang if that doesn’t sound extremely tame and general in this context. uhhh I guess a more specific thing would be people gettin tied up + left alone for a little while with vibrators in/on them
… those are disturbingly close to my own fetishes. GET OUT OF MY HEAD
Pansexuality oh god
Besides my own orientation confusion, I could probably identify as the latter (zombiesexual) version of pansexual. But then I realize that (in the real world), I most often attracted to men. But if I’m attracted to them for their minds, is it because they have “male minds”? So if I was entirely attracted to male minds, how would that really be different from just being gay? (Do I even want to admit the existence of “male minds”? Argh). I’m not, though, it’s just mainly men. I don’t recall the women I’ve been attracted to having any specifically masculine personalities, but it could be that they did and I’m just not remembering . That would simplify my orientation, somewhat, but how would you describe that? “I’m gay, but some women count as men for the purposes of my orientation”?
And outside the real world and in the world of porn, it’s even more confusing. I seem to be mainly attracted to women, but I can only identify that from looking at who I follow and who I most often like/save pictures from. That would make it pretty straightforward, right? I’m attracted more to women than to men, it’s simple.
Well, no. Not at all. My sexuality doesn’t exist in isolation, I’m on an internet where most of the porn is created for straight men. So there’s vastly more of it, which means there’s more of a range of interests/fetishes, there’s more money poured into it, there’s more places to get it. So it very well could be that I’m equally attracted to men and women and everything in between, and still end up with a collection of tumblrs/liked images/saved images which is 90% female and 10% male.
I JUST DON’T KNOW. TOO MANY QUESTIONS. WECLOME TO BLOGGING ABOUT YOUR SEXUALITY.
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Okay, I’m posting this and then I’m done with this debate because I am rapidly escalating to a bad place, and because this is the internet and nothing should be taken too seriously.
“Pansexualism was created by internet blogger teens who wanted to feel special and not be grouped with bisexuals because they’re too artsy and unique to be bisexual.”
No, actually it wasn’t. The term came about in 1914 in relation to Freudian psychology, as a way of expressing that sexuality was present in every aspect of life: “The ‘parts’ of the [Freudian] theory may be enumerated as follows:.‥The pan-sexualism of mental life which makes every trend revert finally to the sexual” (OED Online). The term has since come to mean
“a sexual orientation that encompasses all genders and sexes. Pansexuals engage in romantic and sexual relationships with men, women, transsexuals, transgenders, and intersex people. They are often confused with bisexuals, who are attracted to both men and women. Pansexuals, however, are gender-blind and become involved with people from all different places on the gender and sexuality spectrums.” (USCB.edu)
“Bitch, if you like boys and girls, you’re a fucking bisexual.”
No, no I’m not. And what gives you the right to assume my sexuality? Who gave you the power and the privilege of classifying me as bisexual? What if the person I love was born female, and transitioned chemically and mentally to male but has not yet had a top operation? I could think of a thousand other examples but the point I’m coming to is this: there are more than two genders (here’s a starting point to understanding the gray areas of human sex, gender and sexuality) and pansexuals love/respect/desire/etc. them all.
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Is there supposed to be an actual difference between pansexuals and bisexuals, then? I thought “pansexual” was just being advanced as a synonym that lacked the binary connotations.
Sorta yes sometimes maybe! Pansexuality is confusing, and one of the main reasons is there’s at least two definitions fighting for the name, though not everyone is going to agree there are two, it might just be two ways of stating one orientation
Firstly there’s the one you mention, bisexuality without the gender binary. That one is pretty easy to understand, though I wouldn’t call it “a synonym”. Some people identifying as pansexual are doing it specifically to distinguish themselves from other bisexuals who DO believe in a gender binary. So by this definition, you could have two people who both understand the terms bisexual and pansexual, and one could say “I’m bisexual, you’re pansexual” and the other could say the opposite, because one of them is only attracted to people at the ends of the gender spectrum (which I suppose is a valid orientation to have!) and the other is attracted to people all over the spectrum. The real problem with this definition is that it’s sometimes an offensive (in the “attacking” sense) definition: It’s saying that a lot of bisexuals are really pansexuals and should start identifying themselves as such. “No, you’re not really a bisexual, you’re a pansexual.” Really, the last thing you should be doing as a not-often-respected orientation is go around telling people they’re wrong about what they identify as, it’s not nice and doesn’t help you get any respect.
Then there’s the semi-conflicting definition which is “zombie-sexual”: Specifically attracted to people for their brains, not their genitals. (Which I’m sure is a significant part of all sexual orientations, really. it’s not like there’s pansexuals and then a bunch of people who want to have sex with living sex toys, everybody wants someone with a interesting personality!)
It’s kinda a weird distinction: The first definition is pansexuality as “attracted to ALL genders” and the second is “attracted to NO genders (but attracted to people for other reasons)”.
This definition seems clearer, but I still have some personal problems with it, which I’ll write up separately because this is too long already.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lg6k6qKGyq1qb4wdzo1_500.png)
Okay, I’m posting this and then I’m done with this debate because I am rapidly escalating to a bad place, and because this is the internet and nothing should be taken too seriously.
“Pansexualism was created by internet blogger teens who wanted to feel special and not be grouped with bisexuals because they’re too artsy and unique to be bisexual.”
No, actually it wasn’t. The term came about in 1914 in relation to Freudian psychology, as a way of expressing that sexuality was present in every aspect of life: “The ‘parts’ of the [Freudian] theory may be enumerated as follows:.‥The pan-sexualism of mental life which makes every trend revert finally to the sexual” (OED Online). The term has since come to mean
“a sexual orientation that encompasses all genders and sexes. Pansexuals engage in romantic and sexual relationships with men, women, transsexuals, transgenders, and intersex people. They are often confused with bisexuals, who are attracted to both men and women. Pansexuals, however, are gender-blind and become involved with people from all different places on the gender and sexuality spectrums.” (USCB.edu)
“Bitch, if you like boys and girls, you’re a fucking bisexual.”
No, no I’m not. And what gives you the right to assume my sexuality? Who gave you the power and the privilege of classifying me as bisexual? What if the person I love was born female, and transitioned chemically and mentally to male but has not yet had a top operation? I could think of a thousand other examples but the point I’m coming to is this: there are more than two genders (here’s a starting point to understanding the gray areas of human sex, gender and sexuality) and pansexuals love/respect/desire/etc. them all.
this message is jesusbale approved
Is there supposed to be an actual difference between pansexuals and bisexuals, then? I thought “pansexual” was just being advanced as a synonym that lacked the binary connotations.
Sorta yes sometimes maybe! Pansexuality is confusing, and one of the main reasons is there’s at least two definitions fighting for the name, though not everyone is going to agree there are two, it might just be two ways of stating one orientation
Firstly there’s the one you mention, bisexuality without the gender binary. That one is pretty easy to understand, though I wouldn’t call it “a synonym”. Some people identifying as pansexual are doing it specifically to distinguish themselves from other bisexuals who DO believe in a gender binary. So by this definition, you could have two people who both understand the terms bisexual and pansexual, and one could say “I’m bisexual, you’re pansexual” and the other could say the opposite, because one of them is only attracted to people at the ends of the gender spectrum (which I suppose is a valid orientation to have!) and the other is attracted to people all over the spectrum. The real problem with this definition is that it’s sometimes an offensive (in the “attacking” sense) definition: It’s saying that a lot of bisexuals are really pansexuals and should start identifying themselves as such. “No, you’re not really a bisexual, you’re a pansexual.” Really, the last thing you should be doing as a not-often-respected orientation is go around telling people they’re wrong about what they identify as, it’s not nice and doesn’t help you get any respect.
Then there’s the semi-conflicting definition which is “zombie-sexual”: Specifically attracted to people for their brains, not their genitals. (Which I’m sure is a significant part of all sexual orientations, really. it’s not like there’s pansexuals and then a bunch of people who want to have sex with living sex toys, everybody wants someone with a interesting personality!) It’s kinda a weird distinction: The first definition is pansexuality as “attracted to ALL genders” and the second is “attracted to NO genders (but attracted to people for other reasons)”.
This definition seems clearer, but I still have some personal problems with it, which I’ll write up separately because this is too long already.
Other girls faces during spankings look so funny. I wonder what I would look like. Probably just as silly.
I’ve got a mirror and a paddle if you ever want to find out :)
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